A fun fact that you may not know about me: I was almost a licensed therapist. Straight out of college, I interned as a school counselor for a year before moving into an admissions job. After five years, I decided to pursue a Master's in Counseling Psychology, aiming to become a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. (Depending on your state, you might know them as Licensed Professional Clinical Counselors or a similar title.) After graduate school, I completed a yearlong internship to continue accumulating the 3000 required hours for my license.
I loved my work as a therapist, especially with couples and groups. One of my most rewarding experiences was co-leading a group for court-ordered domestic violence offenders. Their honesty and willingness to face personal challenges gave me hope. I felt truly honored to be with them each week.
As much as I valued my work, there was something missing for me. After completing my intern year, I decided not to pursue my license. It was a big decision, and very unlike me, to abandon the path I was on, but I had to be honest with myself—it just didn't feel right.
In the weeks leading up to my departure, as I informed my clients, I noticed a change in my approach. I was more genuine, bringing more of who I really am into the room rather than conforming to what I thought a therapist should be. This newfound freedom was a revelation. While I don't regret my decision, I do wonder if embracing more of my natural style and ways of being could have led to a deeper sense of satisfaction.
Why am I sharing this?
July is a time of change—whether you’re starting a new job or simply enjoying a summer schedule. It’s an opportunity to step back and re-imagine yourself and your role, whether new or familiar.
As July approached and colleagues were preparing for professional moves, I received several thoughtful emails asking for advice. My number one suggestion: Be unapologetically yourself. It's hard to find joy if you're playing a role or fitting into someone else’s mold. While there’s a time for adapting, it should never come at the expense of your true self. I learned this firsthand as I was closing with my therapy clients. Suddenly, free from the self-imposed limits I perceived, I was more effective and creative, and found greater enjoyment in my work.
I encourage you to reflect beyond typical goal-setting. Ask yourself: Who do I want to be? How do I want to show up? What do I want people to say about me when I’m not in the room? What do I want to be known for?
These reflections can help you shape a work life that’s more aligned with who you really are, where you can fully express your talents and thrive with a sense of purpose and honesty.
I would love to hear your thoughts about this if you are willing to share. Send me an email or reply to this post!
